I finally hit the 1 year mark since the divorce was finalized...

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I remember reading something that said we mark the anniversary of major life changes because it helps the brain make sense of time passing. The article was talking about how people do this with all kinds of things, not just happy stuff. It's not about celebrating the divorce itself. It's about acknowledging you survived a whole year of that new normal.

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williamhenderson3mo ago

Wait, are we supposed to be celebrating divorce now? I get that getting out of a bad marriage is a win, but hitting a "milestone" like it's a birthday feels weird to me. My buddy just went through one and he's still dealing with all the messy fallout - the legal stuff, the kids schedules, the awkward family gatherings. Calling it a one year "anniversary" makes it sound like a good thing you'd look forward to, but for most people it's just a painful reminder of what fell apart. Just don't see how marking time on a broken relationship is something to hype up.

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lee6893mo ago

...wait, hold up, did you just say "broken relationship"? I mean, I get what you're saying about it being painful, but calling it that feels like you're glossing over the part where some marriages are legitimately toxic or abusive. Like, not every divorce is just two people who couldn't make it work. Some folks are genuinely escaping something horrible, and marking a year of freedom from that? That's not the same as celebrating a breakup. Idk, maybe I'm just biased because my sister's divorce was honestly the best thing that ever happened to her, but she still doesn't call it an anniversary. She just does something nice for herself on that day and moves on.

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