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The moment I realized my lawyer wasn't listening during a mediation session last March
I was sitting in a stuffy conference room near downtown Portland when my lawyer said 'we can ask for the timeshare in Florida' even though I specifically told him three times I hate Florida, and after I fired him and went with a collaborative practice instead, the whole process actually started moving forward - has anyone else had to switch attorneys mid-divorce because they weren't paying attention?
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jason_stone593mo ago
Wait, did you actually go with a collaborative practice after firing the first lawyer? Because I used to think that was just a fancy buzzword for expensive hand-holding, but after watching my buddy go through a similar situation in Seattle I totally changed my mind. His first lawyer kept mixing up the names of his kids during a child custody hearing, which was just unbelievable. He switched to a collaborative team and suddenly the whole vibe shifted - it was less about fighting and more about actually solving the problem, you know? I think some lawyers just get burned out and stop caring about the details, and that's dangerous when your whole future depends on them paying attention. Sounds like you made the right call, even if it was stressful to fire someone mid-case.
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olivia_lopez983mo ago
Funny you mention that about the kid names thing, because I think people underestimate how much small mistakes like that actually signal something deeper. Mixing up names isn't just a slip up, it shows they're not fully there with your case or your family. In my experience, once you start noticing those little things piling up you're usually better off cutting your losses, even if it feels wasteful to start over with someone new. The collaborative process sounds like it forces everyone to stay human and pay attention, which might be its real value beyond just avoiding court fights. Your buddy switching lawyers probably saved him more stress down the road than he even realizes yet.
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