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The one thing people get wrong about co-parenting schedules
I keep seeing folks on here say you need a rigid 50/50 schedule right away, but after my split in Chicago last year, I learned that flexibility matters way more in the first 6 months. My ex and I started with a set plan, and it caused fights every time a sick day or work event came up. Has anyone else found that loosening the schedule actually helped everyone adjust better?
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simon_carr3d ago
Wait are you really saying fighting over a few sick days is a bigger deal than whatever happens when one parent just stops showing up? I mean I get the whole be flexible thing but people can take advantage of that real quick. Maybe I'm just too old school about this stuff.
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troyknight3d ago
My last sick day I called in because I stubbed my toe and needed the morning to recover from the drama of it. Maybe I'm the one taking advantage.
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gracethomas3d ago
Oh man, I feel this so hard! I once called in because I chipped a nail and was genuinely upset about it, like full on dramatic meltdown over something so stupid. Then I spent the whole morning binge watching bad reality TV and eating leftover pizza to "recover." The worst part is I actually felt validated in my decision because, you know, mental health day or whatever I told myself. But looking back, I was totally taking advantage and my boss probably knew it too. It's funny how we can convince ourselves that tiny things are real emergencies when we just don't feel like dealing with work that day.
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