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Unpopular opinion: I stopped fighting for 50/50 custody and it made everything easier
I used to push hard for equal time with my kids after the split in March 2022, thinking that was the only fair option. But after 8 months of constant schedule juggling and arguing with my ex about pickups, I realized my kids were more stressed than me. Now I have them every other weekend and two weeknights, which gives them stability and me time to actually rebuild my life. Has anyone else found that backing off on custody percentage actually helped your kids settle down?
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olivia6702d ago
Whoa hold up, I gotta disagree on this one. I went the other direction and fought like hell for 50/50 after my divorce in 2021 and yeah it was rough at first but my kids are way better off now. My ex and I still can't stand each other but we use a shared calendar app and a neutral pickup spot at the gas station so we barely have to talk. My youngest told me last month she feels like she has two real homes instead of just visiting dad, which is exactly what I wanted.
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quinnm772d ago
You mentioned your youngest saying she has "two real homes" and I get that sounds great on paper. But here's the thing, my oldest told me the same thing after we did 50/50 and it turned into a nightmare within a year. The constant switching every few days left them exhausted and they started acting out at school because they never had a real routine. I ended up going back to court for primary custody with visitation because the "two homes" idea fell apart the second homework got lost between houses. I think sometimes kids say what they think their parents want to hear, especially when they know how hard you fought for it.
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