That moment I realized I'd been posting fake apologies for my band's old lyrics just to save face

It hit me when a fan pulled up a 2013 interview where I laughed off the very lines I was suddenly calling 'immature and regrettable', and I realized I wasn't sorry for the words, just sorry I got caught how about you?

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bailey.jennifer3d ago

Angela's comment nails it. Some people treat owning up like a performance instead of actual growth. The band sounds like they were just going through the motions to get the heat off. Real change shows in what you stop doing, not what you say you regret. Silence and better behavior later beats a public apology every time.

ivan_harris3d ago

Own it fully and move on. People respect the honesty more than the backtracking.

angela_morgan3d ago

Hmm, but what about the people who are good at owning it but bad at actually changing? I've seen this at my old job where a manager would apologize for being late to meetings every single time, took total ownership, everyone appreciated the honesty... but then never fixed the underlying time management issue. Eventually the "own it" just became a script, you know? Like a get out of jail free card. Sometimes the silence and just quietly fixing the problem speaks louder than all the dramatic confessionals.