Watching that actor's apology tour after his old tweets resurfaced

I saw his first statement, which felt super defensive and lawyer-written, then six months later he did a long interview where he actually named specific people he hurt. The shift seemed to come after he quietly started working with a group that helps victims, not just his PR team. Do you think that kind of behind-the-scenes action makes an apology real, or is it still just damage control?

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marybutler2mo ago

Honestly, that's the only thing that ever makes me believe a public apology. It's like when a friend messes up and their first move is to make excuses, but then they start actually showing up and doing the work without being asked. The quiet follow-through is what changes it from a performance to a real fix.

troychen1d ago

Is it just me or does the waiting part make you feel like you're holding your breath? I get what you're saying though, the quiet fix is way more powerful than any speech. It's like when a kid in my class messes up and they don't say sorry right away but then you see them staying after class to help clean up without being told. That speaks louder than any apology they could've written out. We all mess up, but the ones who actually change their actions are the ones worth keeping around.

emmamason2mo ago

But how long do you wait to see that follow through before you write them off?

kevin3312mo ago

Yeah, the quiet work is what gets me too... I'm a mess at apologies myself, my first instinct is always to explain why I did the dumb thing, which just makes it worse. So when I see someone skip the big show and just start fixing stuff, it feels like they finally got it.